CHARACTERISTICS PARENTS
A Muslim should have been thinking about the future with non-invesment with stock portfolios, 401K, home or saving account, but with shodaqoh jariyah, distribute useful knowledge, and foster children who sholeh /-ah. This third activity was included in the process of education and especially Alhamdulillah many diantarakita who have children are endowed with, so I moved to 6 summarize the characteristics of the personality of a father's desire.
1. Pattern
One morning, my surprise when I saw how putriku use sepatunya. He immediately entered in the legs to remove the shoe without the strap. Apparently during the time he was considering how to wear my shoes. Due to lazy to open a shoestring, often I open them without a rope and tie a shoe. I try to give melarangnya with the explanation that I wear shoes like that shoes can cause rapid damage. However, the results naught. This is one obvious example bhw children, especially in the early, easy to imitate their parents. No matter whether it is right or wrong. Advice, we do not have the benefit, if we keep doing what we Disallow.
Do we have to provide the best example to our children? Whether we are watching TV more often than read Al-Quran or other books that are useful? Are we more often have a way of standing and sitting while compared with the Basmallah? Are we too late with a prayer in a hurry than prayer on time? Are we reading the letter-that?
Allah SWT said in the ash-shaff 61:2-3: "O those who believe, why you say what is not kamuperbuat? Is most hateful in the sight of Allah that you say is what you do not."
Allah SWT also reminded not to behave like BaniIsrail in the word in the letter Al-Baqoroh 2:44 "Why do you suruhorang others (do) good, and you forget oneself (obligations) you own, when you read the Scripture (Torah)? Then not you think? "
2. Valentines and Love
Warmth, tenderness, and affection that is sincere it is important for basic education for children. Children of early age does not know what his name, but with fitrahnya they can feel. Lihatnya how riangnya highlight the eyes and hands and feet movement of a baby when her mother's embrace and akan menyusuinya with loving.
Baby is able to capture kecilpun face shape, which is always to provide warmth, softness, and with sincere affection, especially those who have been larger.
Rasulullah SAW on many hadith is described as her father, uncle, grandfather or the love and the love that whole-hearted to children. An interesting story is told by the al-Haitsami in Majma'uz Zawa'id from Abu Laila.
He said: "I was near the Prophet SAW. At that time I saw al-Hasan and al-Husain are digendong he. One of them urinating in his chest and stomach. Kencingnya water run down, and I approached him. Rasulullah SAW He said, 'Let the second son, you do not bother them until he finished hajatnya release'. He then carries the water man. " In another narration it is said, 'Do not make haste release hajatnya'.
What about us? Have we ungkapkan our sincere devotion to our children today?
3. Fair
Who has never heard the word sibling rivalry and favoritism? If you have not heard, then know! Who we know, including people who have done so. Often we feel trapped by us so that we just do not apply, for example, because our children are more obedient than one child or another because we love children more than women, boys etc..
Rasulullah SAW said: "Valid adillah you among children in giving." (HR Bukhari)
This be a problem of justice to prevent the occurrence of jealousy between brothers. Experts researchers concluded that children's education the most dominant factors that cause a feeling of envy / themselves in the envious children of pengutamaan brother is the one between the other brothers.
Children are very sensitive to changes in attitudes towards themselves. If we loose control, as soon as possible to improve, because the children are treated unfairly can lead the way feud with his brother-in or (self-closing and self-low).
4. Association and Communication
Often we are in a room with children, but we do not interact and communicate with them. We asyiik read newspapers, they asyiik playing video games, or watching TV.
Many ahadith that describe how the Prophet SAW close association with children and adolescents. He was kidding and playing with them.
What about us who are busy studying while working plus' ngurusin 'IMSA (** smile **)? Where there is a time for chatting with the children? Actually have the time, if we know the strategy. For example, when children accompany education play a CD on a computer, we can explain how to / bermainnya, and briefly give an example, then we can leave. Similarly, reading books and other games. Repotnya have some of the father who did not want to gather with children, especially those in the adult for fear of losing influence or kharismanya. This view is mistaken. Which is more appropriate we try to keep a balance, that means we should not be too rigid in holding power and charisma, but also should not be too loose.
5. Wise In Guiding
Rasulullah SAW said: "Perish ... the people over ..." (HR Muslim). So the most prudent method in teaching and directing children is a consistent and mid - balanced, ie, does not exempt children sebebas-free and does not mengekangnya do not be too often laud, but also not too often mencelanya. When my father ordered his son to something, the father should do so with wisdom, loving, and do not forget the joke membumbuinya necessary. Explain the benefits and wisdom, so that the children motivated to do so. Do not forget to pay attention in implementing the child's condition or the rules are.
Imam Ibn al-Jauzi said that private practice will need to languish, the stages of the condition of the one condition to another, does not apply violence, and hold to the principles of mixing between flattery and threats.
6. Pray
The prophets always pray and ask God for the good of his descendants. "And (remember) when Abraham said: My Lord, make this country (Mecca), a safe country, and preserve me and my sons from worshiping idols." (Ibrahim: 35)
"Praise be to Allah who has given menganugrahkan in the old days (I) Isaac and Ishmael. Lord, truly is Hearer (permit) prayer. O Lord, make me and the sons of those who keep up prayer. Lord! us, perkenankanlah prayer. " (Abraham :39-40)
